Amy vs. John

In light of the recent John Edwards scandal, Amy and John ask the question "Can you forgive a cheater?"  You may be surprised to hear what some women have to say.

Are guys not asking me out because I'm too perfect?

Q: DEAR AMY VS. JOHN:  Why are men so turned off by confident women? I'm a 30-year-old former model who now runs my own public relations company. I'm confused because I go out to exclusive parties and VIP events 3 to 4 times per week, but no guys ever ask me out. Men always say I'm funny, smart, gorgeous, great to talk to etc. But when it comes time to exchange business cards, they always pursue my much (much!) less attractive, and less successful girlfriends. I'm starting to panic because I'm determined to get married and have kids in the next couple of years. What on earth could I be doing wrong?

(Submitted by Dara K. summarized above)

Continue reading "Too Great To Date?" »

Is it rude to expect party guests to take their shoes off in your home?

By Amy Kean and John D. Schwartz

AMY: You know, a few years back, when I first saw the episode of Sex and the City in which Carrie is forced to take off her Manolos at a baby party (only to have them stolen -- the horror!), my reaction was "C'mon, no host would ever be that rude to her guests; that's so stupid, and so unrealistic."

Well, guess what? John and I just found ourselves in the exact same dilemma last weekend. Only, this time, the shoes-off rule wasn't exactly enforced per se. Instead, it was gently "suggested" as we entered the suburban New York home of an acquaintance who happens to have a two-year-old son.

Here's how it all went down:

Continue reading "Shoe-Wearing Monsters" »

Amy and John, with the help of an "expert," discover that the pick-up line is a lost art form that can be used strategically.




What do you think about pick-up lines?  Leave a comment below.

Why should I have to pay for my cheapskate maid of honor?

Q: DEAR AMY VS. JOHN: I'm so fed up with my nightmare maid of honor, I want to kick her out of my wedding! I'm having a destination wedding in the Bahamas, like I always dreamed about. But she's being so cheap; she's putting terrible stress on my fiancé and me. All 92 guests are paying for their own airfare/hotel/expenses--except for her. At the very last minute, she said, "I can't afford to be your maid of honor; it'll cost me over $2,000, you know." Also, I've already agreed to pay for half of her $430 dress because she made me feel so guilty. My fiancé hates her now, and I do too. I know she wants me to offer to pitch in for her travel, but why should I? We're not made of money.

(Submitted by madmat; summarized above)

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John wonders why Amy won't wear the sexy stuff. Is she saving it for someone else?

By Amy Kean and John D. Schwartz

AMY: Last night around 2 a.m., as usual, I went into the bathroom, brushed my teeth, washed my face, applied Dove facial moisturizer (SPF 15--just in case the sun shines in on me in the morning), then slipped into one of my old cotton nightgowns that was hanging from the door hook. This one was a well-worn favorite, a billowy white and pink striped thing my mother gave me years ago. It's been washed about a thousand times.

Continue reading "Husband Expects Lingerie" »

Do pick-up lines work?  Or are they just a cheesy way to approach the opposite sex?


What's your take on pick-up lines?  Leave a comment below.

Just because the groom's mother is paying doesn't mean she's in charge, does it?

Q: DEAR AMY VS. JOHN: My fiancé's mom is taking over our upcoming wedding. At first, we said we'd be having a very small, casual event in our backyard. I'm a graduate student and my fiancé is a chef, so we're pretty poor. So my future mother-in-law says "No problem, don't worry about money; I'll take care of everything." My fiancé is her only child, so she's obsessed with this wedding. Little by little, she's controlling everything: invitations, food, location, flowers--even the guest list. My parents are relieved that she's paying for the whole thing because I'm one of four daughters. At first I didn't care too much, but now I'm getting angry. My fiancé keeps saying, "C'mon, my mom's a bored widow, and she's just excited. She's paying so just let her do it her way." I love him, but don't I have a say?

(Submitted by Crystalgirl; summarized above)

Continue reading "Wedding Power Struggle" »

Who among us hasn't broken this marital "golden rule?"

By Amy Kean & John D. Schwartz

Amy:  I roll my eyes whenever I hear relationship "experts" preaching the most absurd of all rules: "NO MATTER WHAT, IF YOU WANT A HAPPY RELATIONSHIP, NEVER GO TO BED ANGRY."

What planet are these lunatics living on?! Anyone in a real relationship who claims they've never gone to bed angry is just, well, a liar. We've only been married since 2006, and I can't even count how many times I've watched John fall asleep, begin to snore, and then fantasized about what it would feel like to neatly wrap him up in his puffy comforter and toss him out our high-rise window.

Continue reading ""Never Go To Bed Angry"-Are You Kidding?!" »

Where's the best place to meet someone?  Bars are out!  The dentist's office may be a better option, according to Amy.

Do you agree with Amy or John?  Check out their original blog post on this topic:

Looking For Love In A Couple Of New Places